Sunday, 18 June 2017

Quick trip to the beach!

Quick trip to the nearest beach, Charleston, South Carolina... 
3.5 hrs drive from Charlotte, North Carolina !

It was our family's first time stepping foot into the state of South Carolina
What better way than a quick drive to the beach! 
Seems like everybody we know were heading to the beach during the summer holidays so we thought why not?

My in laws came along and it was our first trip holidaying together... 
(If you don't count Malaysia/Singapore/India)

Day 1:
Checked into our hotel room n had our first southern food for lunch! 
We were so starving that we just went to the nearest restaurant across our hotel. 
It was my first time to Cracker Barrel but unfortunately southern food isn't my cup of tea
Lots of deep fried stuff and food was bland. Mr. Hubby agreed too but we told ourselves that we have to try a local one and not chain brand restaurants. 
So we shall give southern food another try! 
Any recommendations on where to eat or what to order?



After lunch we headed straight to the beach! 
There's plenty of beaches to choose from in Charleston, SC. After doing a quick research, we decided to head to Sullivan Island as it claimed to be family friendly with smaller waves, alcohol and pets are not permitted. If you are a surfer, you might wanna check out Folly beach which is the closest beach to downtown. The waves are much bigger and you will be surrounded by surfers!
The downside to the beach we went to was there wasn't any toilets on the beach and you need to walk quite a bit from free street parking. We were prewarned from our research, and made sure the kids did their "businesses" right before.



The first thing this momma did on arrival at the beach was to scout for shaded trees (that's the Malaysian in me)... but to my dismay there weren't any shade in sight!!! It was scorching hot but the "Angmoh" Americans were sun tanning as if it was so nice n comfortable?! 
Thankfully I brought my trusty umbrella along n i was the ONLY one walking around covered up holding an umbrella... Lols! 
Next time u see a covered up Asian crazy aunty holding an umbrella, it's gotta be me... do say hi!


I have countless times been mistaken as Indonesian/ Thai/ Malay/ baba nyonya n here in USA, as Hispanic... getting any tanner shall make me loose my Malaysian Chinese identity! 
I'm already so tanned, and once I'm brown, I can never go back, only black!!! 
My skin will remain tanned/brown... soon, I might as well be mistaken as Indian/black? Lols...



So what did the kiddos Sienna n Skyler do as soon as we got to the beach? 
Dragged Mr. Hubby n my father in law straight to the water... surprisingly the water was warm enough for them to enjoy a good 45 mins... before this momma had to call it quits as it was toasting/roasting them too much!





They got to collect some seashells n then we headed to check out the light house but unfortunately it's just a historic monument n not accessible to the public. Think the infrastructure is too old.


We drove to the next beach nearby called Isle of Palms but unfortunately you can't drive along the beach to see it. So we decided to skip it as it was too hot n headed to get some ice cream to cool us down. N then headed back to hotel for a nap.

Dinner at night ~ Thai food at "Mei Thai restaurant"!!! Yummy n huge portions...

Day 2:
Breakfast at hotel.
Downtown Charleston here we come!!!
Tips: There's free parking along Battery street (might be limited  during the weekends)

Since our trip is a short one, we decided what better way to explore the whole city thru a free walking tour. Yes, FREE! But the tour guides work exclusively for your appreciation. You choose how much you thought the tour was worth. So tip accordingly. 
We've used walking tours a lot whenever we traveled... in Amsterdam, Sydney, Toronto, etc. 
It is the best way to learn about a city and it's never boring! 
Even our kids enjoyed taking in the sights in the quickest way! 
But we made a mistake this time coz we never had to reserve before hand. Just show up and join the tour. Unfortunately, they had a limit on the group size. So we were bummed but we still continued our own itinerary just by following their list of itinerary. "Copy n paste". 
Here's the link to book the tour -> click here
http://www.freetoursbyfoot.com/charleston-sc-tours/

1st stop~ White point gardens. This garden features numerous revolutionary and civil war era cannons. The garden is lined with shaded oak trees, perfect for having a picnic while taking in the sights and see breeze of the Charleston harbor.
Sienna n Skyler were running around on the grass. 




Then we proceeded n walked thru French quarters + cobbled stones road to our next stop.



2nd stop~ Charleston old city market. Lots of antiques, souvenir and trinkets. It is a sheltered market but oh my was so HOT and not air conditioned. It reminded me of "Chatuchak market" in Thailand but on a much much SMALLER scale.
Tips~ Be sure to carry cash
We didn't buy anything as we read it was overpriced. 
Instead, our stomachs were calling for food.

3rd stop ~ lunch in any restaurant surrounding the city market. 
We were so hungry n chose the 1st one we saw, "Market Street Deli" ~> Sandwiches n gyros.

4th stop~ must try, local snack dessert. Pralines!!! (and home made fudge n home made ice cream). So YUMMY that every calories were well spent... well, it's vacation so who cares! 
But be warn that your kids will be sugar high. 


5th stop~ free trolley/bus. We hop on a free bus to get around + sight see. There's 3 different routes. 
Tips~ u can get the map + schedule on board the bus. Bus is Air conditioned which was a saver since we got to cool off for a bit.

6th stop~ kings street. 
We were there at the right time because on the 2nd Sunday of every month, the whole street is blocked to car traffic so we could walk freely and enjoy street performances, people watching and dining el-fresco!


Kings street is lined with designer brands and a good mix of antiques n local shops
This momma did good n did NOT do ANY shopping!!! 
Can't shop in peace anyways when u have 2 young kids with you...
Even though we didn't buy anything, it is still a nice place to people watch + stroll along.

Sienna and Skyler were surprised and speechless when they their fav. princesses!!!
Princess Anna and Elsa!!! (and the other guy, who?)



7th stop ~ waterfront park + pier. 
Offers great view of the Charleston harbor
Sit in the bench swings and take in the views of the Charleston harbor. 


They said if you are lucky, you might even catch a glimpse of dolphins swimming! 
From there you can see the Arthur Ravenel Jr. Bridge. 
The pier reminded me of Sydney harbour in Australia. 






Dip your toes in the Famous pineapple fountain n there's also a huge water fountain where kids were cooling off. Sienna n Skyler just stared at the other kids as we didn't bring any change of clothes!




8th stop ~ rainbow row + the Battery. 
The Battery: Once a defensive seawall, the area is now known for its historic homes, mostly ultra luxurious waterfront homes!!!
We walked along the battery wall back to find our car parked along Battery street. Look to the opposite side of the ocean, you will see a long row of colorful historic homes known as the "Rainbow row". 




Places on the list that we didn't had time to visit:
.Angel oak tree ~ over 1000 year old tree, the oldest oak tree in the east coast! 
Things to note: It is a 25 mins drive from downtown Charleston and closes everyday at 5pm. Thus, we couldn't make it in time.

.Charleston tea plantation. (127 acres).
It is America's ONLY tea plantation!!!
Things to note: It closes everyday at 4pm. Thus, we couldn't make it in time.

.Charleston farmers market~ only opens on Saturday mornings. 
We missed it coz we arrived in the afternoon.

.We skipped the horse carriage tour as we were beaten down by the heat already n figured that we have mostly explored downtown by foot ourselves.

.Red barn ~ free petting farm animals (horse, goats, chickens). 
We skipped it as the kids have done this before elsewhere n figured we could do this anywhere.

Charleston definitely offered more than what I imagined and expected. 
Everywhere we drove, we saw palm trees!!! 
Anytime I see palm trees, it always turn me on vacation mode... 
To think that this beautiful city of Charleston was on our short list of cities we were thinking of moving to. We didn't choose it as it was a bit too far a drive from my in laws. And sadly it was hit by hurricane Matthews and gets flooded every once in a blue moon.

We only stayed 1 night but oh so beautiful Charleston, we will definitely be back!!!

Monday, 12 June 2017

Happy LOVING day!!!

Happy LOVING day!!!

I'm pretty sure 99.99 % of you wouldn't know what this day means! To be honest, I just found out when I just moved back to the USA last year (just stumbled upon it thanks to social media)
It's definitely NOT a day of loving EVERYBODY!!! Lols...
That would be Valentine's day...

It's a very VERY important day in history that allowed the creation of KarMie = Karthik + Jamie!!!

To know that just as recent as in the years prior to 1967, the USA banned interracial marriages.

What Is Loving Day?

Mildred and Richard Loving were of different races but they went against the law, fell in love and decided to get married even though they knew it was illegal. After they got married, they were sentenced to prison for a year. But in 1967, the Supreme Court decided they would no longer prevent couples from marrying based on the color of their skin.

The Lovings knew love conquers all and because of their true love, they persevered so that couples like them and us can proudly be public today!

So because of the Lovings, every year on June 12th, every interracial couples will remember this day and celebrate their victory, our victory. It’s because of them that all couples can marry, regardless of the color of our skin.
They say love is blind right???

KarMie wouldn't be KarMie legally in the USA if it wasn't for the Lovings. Well, we would only be legal in Singapore/Malaysia. And to think that I wouldn't be allowed back to the USA without a USA marriage certificate. That would totally changed our lives. We would have to spend the rest of our lives in Singapore... Lols!!! I wouldn't mind that... "nasi lemak" + toast box everyday!!!

To also know that our kids, Sienna and Skyler wouldn't be able to marry people of a different race just because of the difference in skin color???
That is just mind boggling...
God created humans. PERIOD.

The Lovings definitely changed our lives, our kids lives and the world we live in...

How Can You Celebrate Loving Day?

~> Find a Loving Day celebration.
There are Loving Day celebrations all over the USA. Click here
http://www.lovingday.org/find-a-celebration
to find a celebration in your city!
If you don't have one in your city, you could probably start one in your community...

~> Celebrate with your family at home.
Sienna has been talking more about skin color ever since moving to the USA.
She knows the terminology "Chindian", that she's Chindian = Chinese+ Indian ... She identifies people of different races. We often talk to our kids about how KarMie was formed. When they are older, we can talk to them about The Lovings and/or even watch a movie all about it! The movie is titled "Loving".

~> SHARE IT, SPREAD IT!!!
Let's do our part and spread awareness of this wonderful day in history.
You may share this post if you like!

I LOVE my "ROJAK" aka mixed up family!!!

Friday, 12 May 2017

The END...


The END...
The end to my breastfeeding journey with my 1st born ~> baby Sienna

The end to my breastfeeding journey with my 2nd born ~>  baby Skyler
25th December 2016 marked the last day of my breastfeeding (BF) journey. 
I have been fully breastfeeding my 2 kids for the past 4.5 years in total!!! 
(Minus a few months during my pregnancy with baby Skye ~ click here to find out why). 



Wowwww...didn't know I could last this long!!! I guess all mommies are supermommies...
My ultimate goal was to BF till baby Skyler turned 3 years old (31 Jan 2017)... I almost made it ~ just shy by one month plus! 
***It's okay, this momma still deserves a pat on the back***


So we started to wean baby Skye off by having Mr. Hubby put the 2 kids to sleep in their own (shared) room !!! Finally they get their own room (after moving into our new place) n yayyy to us, the parents, for having the WHOLE queen size bed to ourselves and not having to squeeze n curl up like a "udang" aka shrimp!!!
***The feeling is Ohhh-sooo-awesome***
And NO MORE WAKING UP to feed... baby Skyler n mummy can finally sleep thru the night!!! Say no to "panda bear" eyes and no more feeling like a walking zombie... this momma haven't had her beauty sleep ever since the babies were born!!! N COFFEE!!! Yes, I can drink however much I want n like without the guilty feeling (I used to limit myself).

Okay now back to the story (got a little sidetrack)...
So, it worked but with a little tears and wanting mommy. Every night before Mr. Hubby puts Baby Skyler to bed, I made sure to tell him that he's a big boy now, no need nen-nen aka (.)(.) anymore, pray as a family, kiss our goodnight kisses n off I go! Kudos to Mr. Hubby for making bedtime fun and exciting as he will tell a story each with their favorite cartoon characters in it (which they get to choose their fav characters every night)... and then some days Mr. Hubby will let the kids tell him a story n put him to sleep instead!!! Happened a few times where they 3 feel asleep together ... oh wait, Mr. Hubby was the 1st one to be knocked out.... yayyy to mommy having the WHOLE bed to myself!!! Muahahaha...

But then when it came to their afternoon nap, this momma was left to put the 2 kids to sleep... and since I was there lying with them, Baby Skyler was on auto-mode and automatically latch on to me!!! I tried my best to say NO but he's so persistent and adamant that either I gave in or succumb to having my shirt ripped off... yes, it was that BAD!!!

So basically I was still BFeeding him once a day... Looking back, this was a GREAT outcome coz dropping off feedings gradually made my transition super easy as oppose to going "cold turkey"!!! I did NOT get engorged AT ALL and did not suffer any side effect whatsoever.... no mastitis, no block ducts, no aches, no pains!!! I was dreading and expecting the worst....

Thankfully Mr. Hubby got good news that he will be starting his new job beginning of 2017 which was the highlight of it all ... he would be WORKING from HOME!!! No more driving 2 hrs to n fro work...yayyy!!! More quality time with the kids...N best of all, Mr. Hubby can put the kids down for naps too....couldn't this be any more perfect???PERFECT timing!!!

To add the icing on the cake:-
Mr. Hubby and I came up with an ULTIMATE plan!!!
Since we were over at Karthik's parents place during Christmas (for 1 week), we decided to use the grand parents as the "art of distraction"!!! we told Sienna that the crib/baby cot that she was sleeping in whenever we were at the grandparents place, has been donated. So she immediately declared she's sleeping with the grandparents... and as always, "monkey see,monkey do!!!". Skyler wanted to join in the fun too...Little did he know what he was signing up for.
He cried for his momma once the lights were out... it didn't last long, and I declared victory!!! It happened just for 2-3 nights straight n lasted less than 5 mins...
It came naturally and of course with some coaxing.

Update -
A few weeks passed by, n there's still milk coming out when I press my (.)(.)...
I do really miss having our bonding time but at times it CAN and WILL get frustrating too... definitely a love-hate relationship!!! I knew it was for my baby's own good and n i knew he won't be a baby forever...and yes, my baby has grown up!!! Thus, this ends my breastfeeding journey!
A long journey with bumps here and there, uphill and downhill, but it was well worth it...

...
To all the mothers soon to deliver... Breastfeeding is NOT EASY... U need to be surrounded by supportive family especially hubby! U need to have determination, perseverance, hard core, commitment, hard working, strong willed, "kiasu", etc...
But let me tell u, it is soooo WORTH IT...
All the best... "Jia yu"... "GAMBATEH"... "Fighting"!!!
Baby Skye has only fallen sick twice! All thanks to the wonders of this liquid gold...
*sad**happy**sad**happy**sad**happy**... Arghhhh mixed emotions till this very day!!!
I miss my bonding sessions...only bf mothers will understand ;)

Next milestones:
.say bye bye to all the diapers in the house... diaper FREE!!! We are working on that...starting with nap time first...wish us all the best...









Disclaimer: That's Sienna being silly and wanted to join in the fun too!!! no breastfeeding was involved for this "baby"!!! Just for "show & tell" purposes ;)  

Thursday, 9 February 2017

SKYLER 1st day of school in his LIFE...


SKYLER 1st day of school in his LIFE...


Jan 4th 2017 marked his first day of school...(If you don't count Sunday school, that is)
Skyler started at 35 months, whereas "jie jie" Sienna started school at 33 months.
Sienna's 1st day was exactly 2 yrs 1 day apart.
Read all about Sienna's 1st day of school in Singapore here: 

As much as I couldn't wait to send the 2 kids to school (as they've been home school for the longest time due to us moving from west to east in Singapore n then the big move to USA), this momma was a little bit apprehensive sending Skyler to school due to his school timings being 4 hours!!! (3 times a week)
When Sienna first started school, it was only 2 hours daily which was great as the school was located just downstairs.

But I knew it was time for my babies to go to school. Since we just moved to Charlotte, NC, the kids joined in the middle of the school year. Every other kid knew each other, their teachers and the school. Whereas Sienna n Skyler were new to everything (in an "ang moh" environment). To my amazement, they both adjusted right away!!! They made friends real quick...

They both attend the same pre school but they don't see each other at all the entire time. The only time is when they are being dropped off together and when being picked up. Everything is separated by classes. They go to different playgrounds located around the school area, have different timing for going to the gymnasium, etc...

This momma is so not used to kids NOT wearing school uniform. Whoever that came up with the uniform idea is pure genius!!! Makes life so much easier. But now, this momma not only has the headache of choosing outfits for one kid but two??? In Singapore, it was such a breeze getting Sienna ready as she just had to put on her school uniform over her home clothes. And when she got home, just remove her uniform!!! No headaches n no effort at ALL... I super love the uniform idea. But I guess this momma has to get used to this idea for a VERY LONG time (until college?) which means more shopping for the kids clothes!!! Yayyyy... Lols!

Mr. Hubby and I were debating to send them to another school that was further (20mins walk) away as oppose to this one (10mins walk)...
But after touring both schools, Sienna made her own decisions and decided on this school ~ based on the playgrounds and toys perhaps? Even though the other one was cheaper, Mr. Hubby and I both felt that this school was much more organised, structured and overall much better... and the location being a convenience sealed the deal as we had to drop n pick them up. I choose to walk n get my exercise... but with the cold weather, it's a bit of a challenge with 2 kids...

1st day:
Skyler had been with me almost 24/7 since he is still being breastfed (occasionally left with daddy for a few hours). Imagine mommy's separation anxiety... Lols!!! But I knew it's TIME for my baby and ME to part ways. It'll be good for the BOTH of us and i know he will be happy and learn much more in school. So what did mommy do with her first 4 hours of time???
It's FREEDOMMMMM time for mommy!!! (Mommy went to #Target to shop peacefully) ✌
So Sienna goes 4 hrs daily while Skyler goes 4 hrs, 3 days a week!!!
I'll take it... my "me" time... ☕

It was indeed a bittersweet moment sending him off...daddy and mommy were both there to witness this milestone!!! We dropped off Sienna 1st at her class which is just down the hall way from Skyler's class to show Skyler that "jie jie" is just nearby n how happy n fun going to class would be. And true enough Sienna was SO eager to go, after a quick hug n kiss, she dashed into her classroom. Then it came  Skyler's turn. He cried for 1 min. We decided to stay put to help him adjust. I was playing with him at the train set while he was crying n a little boy came over and offered his "comfort smelly" soft toy...
***Awwwww, bless his heart. I wonder if he brings his comfort toy every single day since day 1?***
After a whole minute of crying (felt like eons to me) he was then HAPPY n asking to go again tomorrow!!! even though he goes alternate days...


This school has an open door policy where parents are allowed to drop by anytime (since we have an access card/fob to enter the building). We can eat lunch with them or take them out for an occasional bonding time...but we decided not to (for now) as both kiddos are enjoying their new environment.

After the 1st day was over, Mr. Hubby n I both picked the kiddos up from school although I was 2 mins late from shopping at target...Lols!!! Sienna was over excited telling us EVERYTHING...and since "jie jie" Sienna was talking non-stop, Skyler was just listening away while mommy gave him lots of hugs n kisses telling him how much I missed him but yet mommy is happy seeing him all smiles and HAPPY!!!

2nd day: 
Sienna woke up earlier than usual n was happy and ready to head out for school. Had to remind her to eat her breakfast first. Skyler thought he was going to school too...  Lols!!!

What I observed after they started going to school (especially Skyler in particular as Sienna has been attending school previously) :-
They are both much better at sharing toys.
Less fighting.
Less tantrums.
Kinder to each other.
More polite with lots of "sorry", "thank you", "please".
More independent.
Eat their meals faster (as they only have 15 mins to finish their lunch at school).

#update: 2nd week of school
Mr. Hubby and I decided to pay a visit and to peek at them ... spotted Skyler happily pushing a toy trolley cart going really fast at the playground. The teacher had to stop him n diverted his attention to us! He was so shocked n so happy to see us peeking from the fence. The teacher said that he loves playing with it.
***Skyler loves anything and everything with wheels. ***


After about 2 mins, we wanted to leave n Skyler said he wanted "out" and to follow us. So we said our goodbyes, we'll be back and parted ways. He started to cry for a bit and the teacher consoled/"sayang" him n he was fine soon after.

Next, we stopped by Sienna's classroom. They were all eating lunch QUIETLY.
*** Wowww, am I dreaming? Kids are so extra well behaved in school?****
Sienna was busy eating her lunch n looking around that she didn't even notice us... her friends kept asking the teacher if we were Sienna's parents. And then finally one of her friend told her... and she was all smiles and at the same time flustered...I guess we were embarrassing her... Lols!!! 
***Not at the age ??? She's too young to find us ~"the parents" embarrassing...Lols***

After a sigh of relief, Mr. Hubby and I were off to our 1st EVER lunch date, just the 2 of us! We had subway and a cookie each ~ without having to share!!! We ate in peace n quiet... Lols...cheers to many more lunch dates!!!

Update from their teachers~
Skyler~
.No pee/poop accidents...He's been long potty trained at home except when we are out and about, we put on his diaper... so we wanted Skyler to start school diaper free!
.He's been communicating well...(one day he came home and told me a friend threw a toy and hit him on his eyebrow, with his "broken" words + body language)... true enough, I found a note in his bag left by his teacher confirming it)
.No crying at all...
.He loves doing ARTs and CRAFTs






Sienna ~
.From the very first few days, Sienna has been Ms. Popular... everybody wants to be her friend and she wants to be everybody's friend.
.Very helpful and proactive...
***One day I picked Sienna from school. So happened her friend was walking behind us with her mom. And her friend told her mom that Sienna was her new friend. Her mom said, " OH, u are Sienna ... we've heard so much about you!!!" ***

I'm glad Sienna and Skyler are in school...
They are happy when they are in school and also happy when they are home!!!
I treasure them even more and even miss them when they are away for that few hours... #mommywoes #LetItGo #DontBeSoEmo